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Heart Power vs. Willpower

If you are struggling with a self-destructive behavior like pornography, ask yourself:


In reality, is this “battle” more about will power or “heart power”?


Is the real problem about your ability or your motivation?  Is it about whether you are ABLE to stop using porn, for example—or truly WILLING?


The more you WANT something, the easier it is to be ABLE.


The WILL can often win in the short term, but the HEART inevitably gets what it truly wants in the long term.

The challenge is to increase your desire for change, not your ability.


—Adapted from the book “Willpower Is Not Enough: Why We Don’t Succeed At Change” by Dean Byrd and Mark Chamberlain

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