For decades, the Twelve Steps of various Anonymous programs (including Sexaholics Anonymous and Sex Addicts Anonymous) have helped people overcome addictions and stay sober.
The Twelve Steps are a powerful tool for:
Effecting a spiritual awakening in which God (or a Higher Power, however you define it) does for us what we cannot do for ourselves, as we humbly submit our self-will and our heart to that Power. (Steps, 2, 3, 5, 6, 7, and 11.)
Overcoming pride and resistance to change through rigorously honest self-examination. (Steps 1, 4, 5, 6, 7, and 11.)
Repairing the harmful consequences of our self-destructive behaviors—especially the harm we’ve done to others. (Steps 5, 8, 9, 10, and 12.)
The Twelve Steps
Here are the Steps:
1. We admitted we were powerless over lust—that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
5. Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
6. Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
7. Humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.
8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry it out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.